A man notorious for serially molesting, harassing and abusing women sexually has been dragged on Twitter.
The man, Oluwatosin Adeshokan, who is a freelancer for a number of international media outfit, got into trouble when popular Twitter personality and journalist Kiki Mordi (@kikimordi) called him out for trying to use her friendship and that of women like her to continue to harass young girls.
“People have spoken to you in private but now me I want you to lie to my face in public. You think you can use my friendship and the friendship of women like me to continue to get away with harassing young girls?
“@theOluwatosin becoming friends with feminists and pretending to be asexual will not protect you from being called out as a predator. You target young feminist women, make them believe you’re a sexual minority, they trust and protect you and you take advantage of that.”
As things began to unravel late on Thursday night, another Twitter user, @asangelwassaying replied: “Thank God Kiki already mentioned his name. The person that made me write the article on forceful fingering last year was sha Oluwatosin Adeshokan.
“I just thank God I’m not dying with this information. I thank God.
“Please, I take God beg you, don’t tell me sorry.
“Last year was rough and what not but I don’t want to be seen as a victim. Don’t tell me sorry inugo? I’ll appreciate cash and other distress gifts though. For the most part I’ve forgiven him sha, I think?
“But I had to mention his name cause though I spoke with him and he seemed really remorseful, I thought it was just me and it was just a one-time thing. Until I saw other girls sharing stories as far back as 2016. I would have kept quiet and just let it slide. But I had the worst nightmare yesterday night. I say ‘worst’ cause it’s a norm in my life that I get nightmares at least thrice a week. My roommates last year had to rush me to the hospital cause I was screaming in my sleep.
“I was short of breath & I couldn’t get up the bed.
“My doctors in BU are there and can testify. Not once or twice did they tell me that if I wasn’t rushed in, it would have ended in a bad case of sleep apnea.
“I used to miss classes cause of the sleep paralysis I got each morning. Not just that, I used to see a lot of feminists interacting with him. Who would believe? Who? I didn’t want it to be said that it was Angel Nduka-Nwosu that made his career go down.
“The way it affected my health was so bad that in class I’ll start crying out of the blue.
“How I passed my final year is still a miracle.
“To make it worse my thesis was on sexual abuse.“At some point my supervisor thought I was being irresponsible cause I couldn’t bring myself to research and make corrections.
“I did the work though and I got a B 😊
“I don’t like remembering any of it tbh.
“I tried having sex with my partner & I started crying when he tried penetrating.
“All I could hear & see was Tosin face & voice saying: ‘Why are you so tiny this babe?’ If I’m going to be dealing with this, Tosin must catch these hands.
“All that’s paramount to me now is that I can breathe properly and not go to sleep with this heavy secret. I’m in a much better headspace than I was last year and I don’t talk to him anymore. I just pray he changes sha,” she ended her long, windy thread.
Another lady, probably a friend of the writer, @kemiifalodun, replied with “I’ve known Tosin for a few years. This is someone I’ve eaten with, laughed with, danced with, publicly associated with, worked with every day these past few months. This is someone I called a ‘friend’.
“I’ve felt different things since yesterday. Disappointment, betrayal, anger. I feel sick. I’ve read so many stories. Truly heart-rending. Women shouldn’t have to keep twisting, bending themselves to avoid abusers and I’m so sorry this is our reality.
“I’m sorry for all the times you’ve questioned your sanity because Tosin preyed on you. You didn’t bring it upon yourself. I see you and I stand with you. Most importantly, I hope you find healing.”
While some started firing off negative comments to fend off what they called “feminists,” some Twitter users had kind words for the predator’s victims.
One of them, @hapygypsy, wrote: “It is not in your head, your case is not different, and you have a right to feel any and everything you’re filling. And no, NONE of the nice things he’s done negates the horrible things he’s done.
“Mine was circa 2014. @theOluwatosin would visit and tell me how good my writing was. Then out of the blue try to kiss me, knowing that I was in a relationship. He would act like he couldn’t control himself around me & it was somehow my fault. I remember telling my ex about it.
“Told myself he was just awkward because he was a sexual minority. Cut him off for a couple years until last year, when I’d convinced myself it was just a fluke. He was so smart & funny and a good friend otherwise, & he never tried it again. Ashe we are plenty.”
Another user, who was called ‘Munass’, shared screens of her chats with him, where he asked her to “come masturbate with him,” after he requested that they two do “rubbish together”. She had told him off, asking him never to speak to her again on the matter.
@ozzyetomi tweeted: “It’s quite clear that Tosin is a predator. It’s not at all a coincidence that every girl with a story is/was between 17-20. He targeted them. Flattered them with attention from ‘a harmless feminist brilliant man with international journalist bylines’. Then preyed on them.
“I want you girls to know that we see you and believe you. All I have seen has been disturbing but @asangelwassayin’s recount made me sick to my stomach. I cannot believe this is what he was doing on this app.”
@Imoteda joined voices. “I’ve been trying to unlook ‘cause I don’t have the emotional capacity right now but this shit is heart breaking and so so deliberate from all the screen shots I’ve seen. When do women get a fucking break?!!!!!”
@ulxma faulted feminists for letting male feminists into their lives, categorising the latter as creeps and frauds. “Nobody is more critical of ‘male feminists’ here than feminists themselves, so I wonder why these people are giving themselves too much credit. ‘I warned y’all about these simps but you didn’t listen’ yen yen yen please go and rest. Stop embarrassing yourselves.”
At past 8 on Friday morning, @theoluwatosin, who had already offered an apology but deleted it, came back with another. “I’ve written and deleted and written statements on this because honestly, I don’t know what to say and how to prove that I’m genuinely sorry for everything I’ve been accused of. But I’m honestly and truly sorry. This is too little and too late, but this will never happen again.”
His apology did not cut it with readers, either. @TitolaGI tweeted: “The fact that this guy targets a specific age group, looking for virgins, makes it so scary. More investigation has to be done. What about little children he has been around? His nieces and friend’s kids. What serious damage has he done that we don’t know of yet?”
@iamkoruzz had a word of caution for him, though. “Dear Tosin, whatever you do in this moment, in this time of revelation, DO NOT hurt or harm yourself. Shameful as your errors, you could be wiped off clean from it all. Your restitution and especially the healing of those hurt by your actions, should be paramount.”
As the wonder and the anger rages on Twitter, @kikimordi added with a note of finality: “Best believe action WILL be taken! If Tosin has ever been inappropriate with you and you felt like you couldn’t talk to me because we were friends I implore you to fuck that and reach out! Action WILL be taken! No safe space for predators. Certainly not within my circle!”
